Round and round she goes, “Look daddy, look! Am I pretty? Do you see me? Watch me twirl daddy…watch.” Her face lights up as she smiles from ear to ear; her eyes twinkle with every turn. With eager anticipation, she waits, “Am I lovely? Am I enough? Do I have what it takes to make you smile?”
Her questions go deep and the twirl is so much more than just a twirl. The response to her twirl has the power to unlock her greatest potential. With every spin, she hopes to see him delight in the person she is today and the woman she will be tomorrow. His approval and his love releases her to be exactly who she was created to be.
As little girls we desire to spin, to twirl, to be seen. We dance, we perform, we seek to captivate the heart of the most important man in our life.
I never quite understood this phenomenon, nor did I think it applied to me. I didn’t grow up with a dad and I only imagined what it would feel like to see him beam at the very sight of me.
There’s always been this deep desire within my soul to twirl and I, along with every other woman, unknowingly do it on a daily basis.
Round and round we go.
I have four girls of my own and I’ve been married for over half my life. Because of my husband and a few other really great men, my perspective has evolved and my appreciation for their role within the life of a woman has grown immensely.
Men are needed in the life of every woman.
I know it’s an unpopular statement, men are needed, but it doesn’t make it any less true. Their strength, their courage, their masculinity, their leadership is so valuable in the life of every woman. Women don’t need men because we are clingy, needy or co-dependent, rather, men need to be who God created them to be so women can do the same.
A strong, courageous man that is driven by a purpose that reaches far beyond occupation, status or superiority has a unique ability to look for the most breathtaking qualities found deep within a woman’s soul. Yes, he’s the man every woman is longing to captivate. She uses her femininity to attract, seduce and pull him close. Why? Because a part of her longs to come alive, dance freely, and be herself when he is near.
Deep down, the heart of every woman desires to twirl for the one she loves.
It doesn’t stop when she grows and it isn’t quenched with maturity. A woman’s twirl is beautiful, it’s unique and it begs to be seen. Of course, her twirl evolves from the sweet childhood dance into an exquisite way of life.
Her dance doesn’t require a tutu or an elaborate spin; oh, it’s so much more. Her dance is the way she walks through everyday life. It consists of fearlessly being herself while raising her kids, wiping tears, working diligently at home or being a fierce asset in the workplace. She prepares meals, nurtures hearts, and creates an environment of rest. She’s quite a woman. Her love and devotion is evident even when she’s weary, worn and tired.
Her smile can melt the toughest man and her embrace can heal a thousand different wounds. Her giggle. Her laugh. Her touch. Her presence.
Her words… Oh, how powerful and empowering her words can be.
Have you seen her as she twirls? The twinkle in her eye and the pride on her face as she talks, as she walks, as she manages it all. She honors her body, loves her family and adores her friends. She twirls with every move and captivates the hearts of all who watch her dance.
Her twirl is magnified when she feels loved, valued and appreciated.
There are women who dance through their entire life without hearing, “You are enough. You are lovely. You are captivating.” She waits, she twirls, and waits some more.
Many women learn early on that twirling can be costly. The words she heard and the actions leveled against her cause her to question her femininity, and severely damaged her ability to see her worth.
She searches. She hopes. The list of accomplishments she achieves is lengthy but her heart remains to be seen. She’s a woman! She’s lovely! She wants you to see how totally captivating she truly can be.
Whether it’s her daddy or the man who commits to her for life, he unknowingly holds the greatest treasure on earth…her heart.
Men have the single greatest task: Magnify her twirl.
The actions of a man can crush and destroy or empower and build her up.
Love her twirl.
She longs to be fully loved. Seek to understand her need to be lovely. She’s captivating, awe inspiring and totally breathtaking.
There will always be men who don’t understand their unique role in calling out the extraordinary beauty deep within a woman, but honor the man who does.
A great man is one who doesn’t exploit or pervert her beauty; rather he respects, honors, and cherishes everything about her.
She’s released to twirl with utter freedom because his strength protects and shields her.
Our world needs great men who will unashamedly value women.
Women don’t need men to shrink for her to rise up and twirl. Strong men need to stand tall and use their strength to restore the beauty found in every woman. She’s magnificent and her unique beauty begs to be seen in her home, in her workplace and in the world.
Men, tell her with your actions that she is free to twirl, free to be every bit of amazing she was created to be. There’s no one on this planet that can do what she was created to do.
Support her, build her up, encourage her, speak into her tired heart and remind her how valuable and needed she is.
See her smile and be taken by her laugh. Dream with her. Ask her what her fears are and listen to hear without trying to fix her. Lead her on the dance floor of life and watch her shine.
Her twirl, when nurtured, cultivated and loved will enhance the strength of a man and will restore the honor of being a woman.
